R U OK? Making Mental Wellbeing Part of Workplace Culture
RUOK? Day, on Thursday 11 September 2025, reminds us that even a simple question can have a profound impact. But the real message isn’t about one day. It’s about asking any day. In the workplace, where we spend so much of our lives, checking in with colleagues can make a meaningful difference to wellbeing, engagement, and connection. A genuine conversation can foster trust, reduce isolation, and create a culture where people feel seen, supported, and safe to speak up when they’re struggling.
Why We Hesitate
Even when we notice a colleague struggling, many of us hold back. Why?
- Fear of making things worse. We worry that asking about someone’s wellbeing might upset them.
- It feels like personal territory. Mental health can feel private, and we sometimes think it’s “none of our business.”
- Not knowing what to say. The uncertainty of how to start or respond can be paralysing.
- Feeling unqualified. Many believe only professionals can help, so they avoid asking.
The truth is, these fears are common, but they also overestimate the risk and underestimate the value of simply showing you care. You don’t need to have the answers. You just need to be present.
The Benefits of Asking
Asking “RUOK?” creates a ripple effect of positive outcomes, both for the person being asked and the workplace as a whole:
- Builds trust and connection. Simple check-ins make colleagues feel seen and valued. Stronger relationships create a more supportive work culture.
- Reduces isolation. Stress, anxiety, or personal struggles can feel overwhelming alone. A conversation reminds people they are not alone.
- Encourages help-seeking. Sometimes, being asked is the nudge someone needs to reach out for support.
- Strengthens workplace wellbeing. A culture of care reduces stress, fosters psychological safety, and boosts engagement.
- Can change a life. Even brief, genuine moments of connection can lift spirits and remind someone they matter.
How to Ask, Listen, and Support
The beauty of RUOK? lies in its simplicity. You don’t need a script, just genuine care. Resources from ruok.org.au suggest a four-step approach:
- Ask: Choose a calm, private moment and ask sincerely, “RUOK?”
- Listen: Give them space to share without interrupting or judging.
- Encourage action: Suggest ways they can access support, but don’t pressure them.
- Check in: Follow up later to show ongoing care.
You don’t have to solve their problems or be a counsellor. Your presence and attention are often enough.
Everyday Examples That Work
You don’t need a formal setting to ask. Everyday gestures can be powerful:
- Coffee break check-ins: Noticing a colleague who seems quieter than usual? Invite them for a coffee and ask how they’re going.
- Team meetings: A casual “How’s everyone going?” can open the door for someone to share more privately afterward.
- Remote messages: A quick message to a teammate working from home, like “Hey, just checking in to see if you’re OK?” shows you care, even at a distance.
- After a tough day: Walking alongside someone after a stressful meeting and simply asking, “Do you want to talk?” can provide relief and connection.
Even small, informal conversations make people feel valued and supported.
Final Thoughts
RUOK? Day on 11 September 2025 is a great reminder that the real impact comes from asking RUOK any day. Hesitation is normal, but the benefits are undeniable: stronger relationships, reduced isolation, and workplaces where everyone feels seen and supported. So take a moment, notice a colleague, and ask: “RUOK?” It doesn’t have to be perfect or formal. Just caring is enough. That single question asked sincerely can make all the difference.